What Men Say when They Don't.. "I Just Got Out of Something Serious? by Julianna Rowe

What Men Say When They Don't......."I Just Got Out of Something Serious,” by Julianna Rowe

What Men Say When They Don't- A series on language of avoidance isn't gendered. It's for anyone whose clarity, and the quiet announcement people make before they disappear. Hosted on?  The Happy News Lady

While these pieces focus on  men, the language of avoidance isn’t gendered.

I Just Got Out of Something Serious

It sounds responsible, almost noble.                   

“I just got out of something serious.”    

He says it like a disclaimer. Like a caution sign placed gently in front of you that you’re supposed to appreciate the honesty. You’re supposed to admire the self-awareness.

And maybe you do.

But here’s what that sentence often carries underneath it: Unfinished conversations, residual attachment, and emotional debris that hasn’t settled yet. Serious relationships don’t evaporate overnight. They linger  in habits, comparisons and in late-night thoughts no one talks about. So when he says he just got out of something serious, what he’s also saying is: I’m still processing,  I’m still untangling, and I’m not fully here. Sometimes it’s sincere, but sometimes it’s a protection. And sometimes it’s a way to lower your expectations without closing the door. You find yourself adjusting and being patient. Telling yourself healing takes time. But the question isn’t whether he got out of something serious. The question is whether he’s ready to step into something new. And if he isn’t, no amount of your understanding will make him be.

 Tomorrow’s topic: “I'm Not Ready For Anything" (A Relationship)