What Men Say When They Don't... CLOSUR ISN'T ALWAYS A CONVERSATION - by Julianna Rowe

 What Men Say When They Don't........

 ACT VI  The Truth 

A series on language, clarity, and the quiet announcements people make before they disappear.  Hosted on The Happy News Lady  

While these pieces focus on  men, the language of avoidance isn’t gendered. 

Closure Isn’t Always a Conversation

We love the idea of closure. You know, the final talk with a possible clean ending with an explanation that ties everything together.   Believing that something that makes it all makes sense.  But most of the time.....

That's not how it works.  There is no final conversation or moment where both people sit down, speak honestly, and walk away understanding everything.

 

What really happens is:  There's just silence and distance and a slow fading of what once was.  And that silence can be louder than any words because you're left with questions. 

Why did this happen? Did it mean anything? Did they ever really care?

And then you wait…Thinking closure is something that will come from them. But it doesn’t because closure was never theirs to give.

At some point, you realize: You already know everything you need to know.

Not from what they said…But from what they did and what they didn’t do, and then what stopped, what changed.

Closure isn’t a conversation, it’s a decision. It’s the moment you stop replaying, quetioning, and waiting.It’s the moment you say:

“I understand enough.”

I understand enough to let go, enough to move forward, and enough to stop needing anything more. Because if someone wanted to give you clarity…They would have.

“Closure isn’t something they give you… it’s something you choose when you’re done waiting.”

“He didn’t lose me. He just met the version of me that doesn’t wait anymore.”